I do a theatre technology and stage management course in college; a good chunk of this course involves becoming a production team with my fellow course students, and putting on shows.
Shows mean actors (and dancers, but this is less so about them). Actors are, generally, outwardly confident people, who are comfortable to show their real personalities in any situation.
So, I hear you ask, what is this realisation mentioned in the title of this post?
The realisation came to me, having spent the majority of the last 3 months around actors – even befriending some of them – last night in a matter of moments.
It is that it is easier to accept someone for their ‘weirdness’, if that is how you know them from the beginning.
Basically, if you are yourself with someone from as early on in the new relationship as possible, then you are less likely to think someone is strange when they come out of their shells. Having said that, it’s always exciting to see someone feel able to be themselves around you.
You should know – I didn’t make this realisation by the way people treated me, but more from the way I thought of those who were being themselves around me. I didn’t care. In fact, I wouldn’t have them any other way, because that’s not how I know them now.
I am a very shy person – some people are surprised to ‘learn’ this (I realise that someone ‘learning’ that I’m shy seems against my point of being shy, but it depends whether they’re looking into my friendship with someone else, or talking to me first hand), so I find it difficult to talk to people and not seem like some a-hole. I’m not saying that this realisation is going to change my being shy, but it’s nice to know that I’m not alone.
I’m not alone.
I’m not the only person who laughs at even the tiniest innuendo.
I’m not the only person who gets grumpy (and a little mean) when tired, but copes with everyone else being the same back.
(I’m not the only person who can’t think of more examples, because my brain is fried.)
Thank you to everyone who helped me come to this realisation, and I hope that you are in my life for years to come.